Is your relationship good for your mental health?

The connections we have with those around us – our friends, family and partners – can add enormous value to our life. But unfortunately, not all relationships do, and some can even be detrimental to our mental health.

Research suggests that individuals with a strong social circle are more likely to be happier, and those in healthy and stable relationships experience lower stress and less depression.

Toxic relationships, on the other hand, can increase the risk for depression, anxiety and heart disease.

What are the signs of a toxic relationship?

Poor communication
Lack of support
Controlling behaviour
Disrespect
Feelings of anxiety
Feelings of being drained in their company
Lack of reciprocity – no give and take
Isolation from others because of the one relationship

Making changes

Financial and personal changes can put a strain on relationships – but they don’t excuse a toxic one. If the relationship is impacting negatively on you, changes need to be made.

1. Talk about it
If someone’s behaviour has gone unquestioned for some time, they may not realise that there is a problem. Let them know how their words and actions are affecting you.

2. Set boundaries
By doing so, you let the person know where your limits are and how you’d like them to engage with you.

3. Leave and move on
If you’ve had the conversation and set boundaries, and nothing changes, you may need to remove yourself from their circle. This may be complicated, especially if they’re family, but may be necessary in order to protect yourself.

Relationships are important to our quality of life. But no relationship is more important than the one we have with our mental health.

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